Back in June, I was at the UKIHCA Health Coaching Conversations conference when, quite unexpectedly, a microphone was thrust into my hand.
Robert Notter had just asked the room:

“What does working in alignment mean to you?”

My dear friend and cheerleader, Izabella Natrins, gently nudged me to speak, saying, “Harriet is the most aligned coach I know!” But honestly? I froze. My brain went blank. I couldn’t find the words.

But that question stayed with me.

💫 So, What Does It Mean to Live in Alignment?

For me, alignment isn’t something I think—it’s something I feel.
It’s not a concept to “get right” in my head. It’s something I experience in my body.

It feels like:

• The grounded ease of a regulated nervous system
• The joy that lingers after a powerful coaching session
• The energy and connection at Supper Club, Lunch Club, or walking into St Wulfstan’s Surgery
• That unmistakable coming home feeling

That day at the conference, I was in alignment—surrounded by my tribe. A roomful of people who shared a passion for wellbeing, for taking care of themselves and others, and for learning, growing, and inspiring.

“Alignment is when my values, energy, and actions are all in sync—when I’m living from the heart, with compassion, joy, and purpose.”

As a HeartMath coach, I know this isn’t just emotional—it’s physiological.
When I’m in alignment, I experience coherence. My nervous system settles. My heart leads. And everything begins to flow.

But here’s the truth:

Even though I coach emotional regulation…
Even though I believe in HeartMath with my whole heart…
I still have to practice every single day.

I still wobble. I still forget. I still get caught in stress, doubt, or pressure.
But what brings me back—every time—is remembering:

Coherence isn’t about being perfect. It’s about returning. Gently. Lovingly.

We are all a work in progress. And I think that’s the point.

HeartMath gives me a way back to myself—
To my breath.
To my body.
To love.

Because at the core of it all—regulation, coherence, alignment—it really is about love.

I’ll never forget one Supper Club evening. I was anxious about the cooking. Caught up in worries about whether it would be good enough.
And a dear friend looked at me and simply said:

“Don’t worry. It’s all about love anyway.”

That stopped me in my tracks.
Because yes. That’s it.
That’s all of it.

We don’t need to be perfect.
We just need to bring love into the room.

🌱 Wellbeing Is a Feeling

Wellbeing isn’t a checklist.
It’s not a set of habits to tick off.
It’s not something to “achieve.”

Wellbeing is a felt sense of peace, safety, and belonging.

It’s what happens when we feel regulated, connected, and present.

I feel wellbeing when I step onto the yoga mat, into a dance class, or sit down to a nourishing lunch. But even more so, I feel it when I’m with people I love. When I’m sharing what I believe in. When I’m part of something bigger than myself.

“Wellbeing needs to feel good to you. It needs to feel like home.”

❤️ Health and Wellbeing: What I Live and Breathe

This isn’t just my job. It’s the way I live.
I live and breathe wellbeing because I believe in its power.

I believe every person has the potential to experience ease, joy, and deep peace. And that potential is unlocked through intentional, heart-led action—whatever that looks like for you.

My work isn’t about prescribing.
It’s about reminding.

Reminding you what’s possible.
Reminding me, too.

🤝 The Power of Connection and Community

Community is the heartbeat of everything I do.
Without it, I honestly don’t think I’d still be coaching.

The team at St Wulfstan’s Surgery, where I’ve run wellbeing sessions for over two years, continues to inspire me with their belief, support, and shared purpose.

One of the most beautiful things I’ve ever heard was said at my very first session there:

“Dr Kirti is simply oxytocin in human form.”

What a sentence. What a compliment. And what a reflection of the heart-led leadership at the centre of that team.

🌟 My Core Values: Compassion, Gratitude, and Joy

Compassion

For a long time, I thought I was too sensitive. Too emotional. Too soft.
Now I know: these are my greatest strengths.

I meet difficult emotions with the same compassion I’d offer a friend.
I let them move through me. That’s how I create safety—for myself, and for others.

Gratitude & Joy

Gratitude is my anchor.
It grounds me in what matters.
It reminds me life is a gift.

Rhonda Byrne says our purpose is joy—and we find that joy by giving:

• Our kindness
• Our love
• Our care
• Our light

In a recent podcast, Kirsty Gallagher said something that hit home:

“Our purpose is to be ourselves.”

I believe that, too.
Because when we allow ourselves to be who we truly are—and do what we love—we radiate joy. And we give others permission to do the same.

Another favourite reminder, from Dr. Daniel Amen:

“Happiness is a moral obligation,”
because our energy affects everyone around us.

Or as my husband often says:

“I’m OK if you’re OK.”

🌈 Final Thoughts

Living in alignment means living from the heart.

It means listening to your body’s wisdom.
Honouring what brings you joy.
Creating space for ease, connection, and purpose.

It means showing up exactly as you are—and helping others do the same.

If I could go back to that moment at the conference, here’s what I’d say:

“For me, living in alignment is a feeling—an inner peace that I’m doing the right thing, with the right people, from the heart. It’s when my heart and nervous system are in coherence, and everything flows.”

In my favourite book, Into the Magic Shop, Dr. James Doty writes:

“The mind wants to divide us… The heart, however, wants to connect and to share. If we want love, we have to give love. If we want joy, we have to make others joyful.”

So here’s to living from the heart.
To choosing love over perfection.
To practicing coherence—not to master it, but to return to it.
To sharing our joy, our presence, and our full humanity.

Because when we do, we don’t just feel at home—
we help others come home too.